Codependency Will Kill Her Attraction—Here’s How to Fix It
Codependency is real.
At first, melting into each other feels great.
You finally feel whole. Complete. Safe.
But it was never meant to be that way.
And if you keep making her your emotional center, it will fail you—and kill her attraction in the process.
Why Codependency Pushes Her Away
The needier you get, the more she’ll pull away.
The more you crave her approval, the more she’ll seek a man who doesn’t need it.
The more you think you’d die without her, the more repulsive you’ll look to her.
Attraction isn’t built on need—it’s built on security, strength, and self-leadership.
Knowing Your Attachment Style Won’t Fix Anything
I see it all the time.
Men discover anxious attachment and think, Oh, that’s why I act like this!
They start researching avoidant partners, hoping that knowing the theory will help them “understand” their wife’s behavior.
But guess what?
Understanding isn’t transformation.
You don’t fix your marriage by learning psychological labels.
You fix it by becoming secure within yourself—independent of her moods, approval, or attention.
You Must Find Your Center in Who You Were Made to Be
If you want a secure relationship, you have to be secure on your own first.
This isn’t about playing mind games.
It’s not about pretending you don’t care.
It’s about actually being the man you were created to be.
A man whose worth isn’t tied to whether or not she’s happy with him that day.
A man who is rooted in his purpose, his mission, and his identity in God.
Because anything else?
It’s a lie.
And making her your identity?
It will harm you both.
Success Won’t Fix the Wound—Only Healing Will
If you’re like many of my clients—founders, real estate investors, business owners, and high-achievers—you may feel like, deep down, you’re not enough as you are.
Your career masks the wound.
You prove yourself through work, money, and achievements…
Until she comes along and makes you feel like a man again.
Until, for the first time, you feel worthy.
And then?
Your insecurity forces her into the role of your mother.
And when that happens?
👉 She runs—for her own sanity.
Want to Fix This? Here’s Your Next Step
Since 2015, I’ve coached founders, executives, and business owners to break free from Nice Guy Syndrome, codependency, and anxious attachment so they can finally lead in their relationships.
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Codependency is real. 🫠
In the beginning, melting into each other feels like it solves every problem. But it was never meant to be that way.
(Follow me @ronbcecil if you want to dive deeper into fixing attachment issues in your marriage.)
Making her your emotional center will fail you—and kill her attraction for you. The needier you get, the more she’ll pull away. The more you crave her approval, the more she’ll look for a secure man. The more you think you’d die without her, the more repulsive you’ll look to her.
You don’t even need to explore anxious or avoidant attachment theory. Simply knowing your attachment style won’t fix anything.
If you want a secure relationship, you have to become secure on your own. You must find your center in who God made you to be—period. Everything else is a lie, and making her your identity only harms you both.
If you’re like many of my clients—founders, real estate investors, business owners, and high-achievers—you may feel you’re not worthy as you are. Your success masks that wound…until she comes along and makes you feel like a man, right up until your insecurity forces her into being your mommy.
Then she has to run for her own sanity.
Want to fix this?
