Stop Blaming Her – Take Ownership & Lead Your Marriage
If you did nothing else but actually implement what you already know you need to do, your marriage would start to heal.
So why aren’t you doing it?
What’s stopping you from changing?
Step 1: Stop Using Her as an Excuse
You can’t control her. You can’t fix her.
So stop making her the reason you’re stuck.
The Nice Guy behaviors you refuse to change—the ones keeping you in anxious attachment and codependency—are the very things pushing her away.
🔥 Here’s the hard truth:
You don’t feel good enough on your own.
You’re looking for validation outside yourself.
You’re avoiding the deep work because it’s uncomfortable.
You say you want a better marriage, but are you actually doing anything different?
🚀 You want her respect? Then start by leading yourself first.
Step 2: Get Honest About Why You’re Stuck
Let’s be real—you’re a hard-working, successful man.
Maybe you’ve built a great business.
Maybe you provide for your family.
Maybe you feel like you’ve already sacrificed so much.
So why does your marriage still feel like it’s falling apart?
Because you never addressed the root cause.
You’re caught in a cycle of seeking approval, either trying to prove yourself or numbing out to avoid responsibility.
💡 It all traces back to childhood.
The woman you chose, the arguments you get pulled into, the way you handle stress—it’s all wired into you from your earliest experiences.
This isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding.
👉 Why did you choose her in the first place?
👉 Why do you default to people-pleasing or avoidance?
👉 Why do you shut down or over-explain when she gets emotional?
🔥 You must face this head-on if you ever want to break free.
Step 3: Take Full Ownership of Your Growth
This is where everything changes.
Real masculine leadership starts when you own your side of the street—no more excuses, no more waiting for her to change first.
🚀 What that looks like:
✔ Rewiring your Nice Guy conditioning
✔ Reclaiming your sense of purpose (outside of her)
✔ Learning how to regulate your nervous system when conflict arises
✔ Building real confidence—not based on what she thinks of you, but who you actually are
I’ve spent the last decade coaching founders, business owners, and entrepreneurs to do this exact work. The results?
🔥 They stop feeling like they’re chasing their wife’s approval.
🔥 They reclaim their confidence in who they were made to be.
🔥 Their wives feel naturally drawn back to them—not because they begged, but because they changed.
This works. But only if you step up and do the work.
Your Next Steps (Take Action Now)
📩 Step 1: Download the Free PDF
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This is just the start...💯
If all you did was write down everything above and start implementing it, you’d begin to heal your marriage.
Why not actually do something different this time for your marriage? What’s stopping you?
You can’t control her, so stop using her as an excuse. The 10 items above clearly spell out the Nice Guy behaviors and exactly what to do about them. They’re the reason your anxious attachment feels out of control. They’re why you feel codependent and why your wife wants space.
Learning to lead your marriage starts with learning to lead yourself. That means getting honest about why you act the way you do and why you haven’t done what you know you should. Again, stop blaming her.
I get it—you work hard, you have a great business, and she might pull you into marathon-session fights, but it was YOU who chose her. Why is that? What drew you to her in the first place? Hear this clearly: it all has roots in your childhood.
At your core, you’re looking for someone or something to fulfill you because you don’t feel good enough just as you are. You’ve been living your life stuck in endless cycles, either trying to prove yourself or numbing out because you’re afraid to own your side of the street.
It’s time to face reality and learn a new way. For the last decade, I’ve helped business owners, founders, and entrepreneurs get to the root of their Nice Guy syndrome, anxious attachment, and codependency. These men learn to rewire their brains, step into their purpose, and lead their marriages.
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