No Boundaries? No Attraction? Here’s Why She’s Pulling Away.
In the beginning, the attraction and connection is intoxicating. You finally unstoppable.
But if you keep making her your emotional center, it will fail you.
Not only that, but it will make her less attracted to you.
That’s the essence of codependency.
Why Codependency Pushes Her Into Another Man’s Arms
The more needy you become, the more she pulls away.
The more you seek her approval, the more she looks for a man who doesn’t need it.
And here’s the brutal truth:
👉 She may already be talking to him.
If you believe you can’t live without her, she will start to see you as weak and repulsive.
Not because she’s cruel.
But because no woman can handle being a man’s entire world—it’s too much pressure.
She doesn’t want to be your mother.
She doesn’t want to be your savior.
She doesn’t want to be your therapist.
She just wants a man who knows who he is—without her.
Attachment Theory Won’t Fix This—But You Can
A lot of guys fall into the trap of learning attachment theory and thinking that’s the answer.
They discover they have anxious attachment and start analyzing every behavior.
But here’s the thing—knowing your attachment style won’t fix anything.
You don’t need more intellectual understanding.
You need emotional security.
If you really want a secure relationship, you have to become secure on your own—without her.
Find Your Identity in Who God Made You to Be
This isn’t about playing mind games or pretending to be detached.
This is about truly being the man you were created to be.
✔ A man who leads himself first.
✔ A man who isn’t emotionally reactive.
✔ A man whose purpose is bigger than his relationship.
Because if you don’t?
You will make her your identity, and that will destroy both of you.
Success Won’t Heal the Wound—It Just Hides It
If you’re like many of my clients—founders, real estate investors, business owners—you carry a hidden wound that tells you you’re not enough.
You’ve spent your life proving yourself.
Building. Winning. Achieving.
And it works—until you find her.
Suddenly, she makes you feel alive again.
But then?
Your insecurity forces her into the mommy role.
And no woman wants to mother the man she’s supposed to admire.
👉 That’s when she runs—for her own sanity.
Want to Fix This? Here’s Your Next Step.
Since 2015, I’ve helped founders, executives, and business owners break free from Nice Guy Syndrome, codependency, and anxious attachment so they can lead in their relationships instead of clinging to them.
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No boundaries 😵
Early in a relationship, melting into each other feels like it fixes everything. But it was never meant to be that way. (Follow me @ronbcecil if you want a deeper dive into fixing the attachment issues in your marriage.)
Making her your emotional center will fail you and make her less attracted to you. That’s the essence of codependency.
The needier you get, the more she pulls away. The more you seek her approval, the more she’ll look for a man secure in himself—and she may already be talking to him.
The more you feel you can’t live without her, the more repulsive you become to her.
You don’t even have to memorize attachment theory. Knowing your style alone won’t fix anything.
If you really want a secure relationship, you have to become secure on your own—without her. Find your identity in who God made you to be, period. Everything else is a lie, and making her your identity only harms you both.
If you’re like many of my clients—founders, real estate investors, business owners—you carry a hidden wound that tells you you’re not enough. Success just buries that wound deeper. Then you find “her,” and she makes you feel alive…until your insecurity forces her to play the mommy role.
That’s when she has to run for her own sanity.
Want to fix it? Start with the fast track course I use to help men break clinginess, kill codependency, and find true confidence in who God made them to be.
