What Healing Codependency Really Looks Like in Marriage (From a Man Who Lived It)
You see the smile in this photo?
The real joy, the connection, the "we made it through" energy?
Yeah—this is what it’s all about. 🫡
But let me be honest:
It wasn’t always this way.
Our Marriage Didn’t Start Out Picture-Perfect
When we got together, the odds were stacked against us:
She was a single mom with a two-year-old.
I was recently divorced, carrying a generational legacy of dysfunction.
I came from a long line of Nice Guys—men terrified of being abandoned, who in turn, abandoned their own families.
On the surface, it looked like a fresh start.
We were in love, rooting each other on, and hopeful.
But beneath the surface, we were just two adults stuck in wounded inner child energy.
When Reality Hit, So Did the Patterns
Money stress crept in.
Unresolved childhood trauma started showing up.
My drinking got worse.
We spiraled into the classic anxious-avoidant loop.
And then one day—she called me out.
“You’re codependent,” she said.
And you know what?
She was right.
That moment, over 17 years ago, became a turning point.
Healing Nice Guy Syndrome, Anxious Attachment & Codependency
I had to face it all:
✔ The anxious attachment I had carried since childhood.
✔ The codependent behaviors that made her my emotional center.
✔ The fear of not being enough that drove me to over-perform in work—and underperform at home.
💡 The hard truth?
I was a “Nice Guy” trying to earn love through approval, sacrifice, and people-pleasing.
And it wasn’t working.
If I wanted a strong, emotionally connected, and lasting marriage, I had to do the deep work.
The Work Wasn't Fast. But It Was Worth It.
Healing wasn’t a weekend retreat.
It was years of…
✔ Owning my side of the street.
✔ Letting her handle hers.
✔ Choosing growth over comfort, again and again.
And slowly—over time—we rebuilt our marriage.
Today, we’re not just “doing better.”
We’re thriving.
We’re living in joy, purpose, and freedom.
And it all started with me deciding to lead myself first.
The Method That Has Helped Men Worldwide
Since 2010, I’ve worked with men from Los Angeles to New York, London to Sydney—CEOs, founders, entrepreneurs, and high-level leaders who were crushing it at work but drowning at home.
What they had in common:
They were stuck in Nice Guy Syndrome, anxious attachment, or codependent patterns…
And they didn’t know how to lead their marriage without losing themselves.
I showed them how.
🔥 Through a proven system I’ve refined over the past decade, they learned how to:
Reclaim their emotional authority
Heal the wounds that made them chase approval
Lead their relationships with clarity, strength, and grounded masculine energy
And now I want to give that same system to you.
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This is what it’s all about. 🫡
Healing codependency, anxious attachment, and Nice Guy Syndrome.
We look happy in this video—and the truth is, we are. We’re doing better than ever in our marriage and loving the hell out of our lives.
But it wasn’t always like this. When we started out, the odds were stacked against us. She was a single mom with a two-year-old. I was divorced and came from a family where divorce was the norm.
I also come from a long line of Nice Guys—men so afraid of abandonment they made women their emotional center. The irony? Those same men were the ones who abandoned their kids and ran off with someone new. Dysfunction was the default.
In the early days of our marriage, things felt great. We were rooting each other on, the connection was strong, and it felt like a fresh start.
Then real life hit—money stress, unresolved childhood trauma, my drinking, and a whirlwind of anxious and avoidant attachment. We were two adults stuck in wounded inner child energy.
Everything changed about 17 years ago when she called me out for being codependent. Thank God she did. That wake-up call showed me how fragile everything was. If I wanted a healthy marriage, I had to face it all. Codependency, Nice Guy Syndrome, anxious attachment—it was just the tip of the iceberg.
It was hard work, but I never stopped. It meant owning my side of the street and letting her handle hers. It meant action over comfort, every single time.
For over a decade, I’ve helped men do the same—heal their wounds and lead their marriages with strength.
I’ve worked with men from LA to NYC, London to Sydney. Entrepreneurs, business owners, founders.
Drop “me” in the IG comments or DM, and I’ll send you my free 9-page PDF detailing exactly how I help men reclaim their power, break these toxic patterns, and create the marriage they’ve always wanted.
