Divorce Feels Like the End—Here’s How to Rebuild Your Life as a Man
When I went through my divorce, something unexpected happened…
Suddenly, I had all this untapped time and energy to do the things I had only dreamed about before.
🔥 I got in shape.
🔥 Tackled a triathlon.
🔥 Climbed rocks.
🔥 Traveled.
🔥 Wrote a screenplay.
🔥 Made new friends.
Life got so good.
But I’ll admit something…
👉 I could have been doing all of that all along.
Would it have saved my first marriage? I have no idea. And honestly, it doesn’t matter anymore.
A New Marriage, The Same Old Patterns
Eventually, I remarried an incredible woman.
We’ve been together 16 years now, and to be honest? It’s a dream come true.
But early in our marriage, she called me out:
👉 “You’re codependent.”
And she was right.
I noticed a pattern:
The less I poured into my own full life, the worse our relationship got.
Every time I:
❌ Focused all my energy on making her happy
❌ Prioritized her needs over mine
❌ Lost sight of my own mission, my own drive, my own identity
👉 The more she pulled away.
And here’s what I learned:
Being clingy, codependent, or a people-pleaser doesn’t just happen randomly.
It comes from deeper wounds:
A dad who left the family
Parents who struggled with addiction or abuse
Emotional neglect in childhood
You’re wired to fear being alone—yet hate being controlled.
That’s the core of Nice Guy Syndrome.
Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Cycles
If you keep trying to make her happy at your own expense, here’s what will happen:
💥 You’ll grow bitter.
💥 She’ll lose respect.
💥 The same patterns will keep repeating—even in a new marriage.
You can change wives, change relationships, change locations…
But if you don’t fix the core wound, it always resurfaces.
Because what you’re up against isn’t just a relationship problem—it’s an old survival instinct.
And it takes real work to rewire it.
The Good News: This Work Is More Fulfilling Than You Think
Like I said, the best thing you can do?
🔥 Focus on building a life you love.
But if you’re battling:
Shame
Feeling unworthy
Old wounds from childhood that keep sabotaging your relationships
👉 You need guidance, brother.
Because this doesn’t fix itself.
Want to Rebuild Your Life After Divorce? Here’s Your Next Step.
Since 2015, I’ve helped countless businessmen, founders, and entrepreneurs heal their codependency—even in the middle of brutal divorces.
If you want to thrive against all odds, you’ll need support.
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Divorce can be fantastic.
When I went through mine, I suddenly discovered all this untapped time and energy to do the stuff I’d been dreaming about. I got in shape, tackled a triathlon, climbed rocks, traveled, wrote a screenplay, made new friends…life got so good!
But I’ll admit, I could have been doing that all along. I’m not sure if it would have saved that marriage, and honestly, it doesn’t matter anymore.
I eventually remarried an incredible woman. We’ve been together 16 years now—tbh it’s a dream come true. But early in our marriage, she called me out for being codependent—and she was right.
Over time, I noticed that the less I poured into my own full life, the worse our relationship would get. Being clingy, codependent, or a people-pleaser often comes from deeper wounds—a dad who left the family, parents who struggled with addiction or abuse, or other childhood traumas. It wires you to fear being alone, yet hate being controlled.
If you keep trying to make her happy at your own expense, you’ll just grow bitter. And that pattern doesn’t just vanish—it gets worse over time. Even in a new marriage, this will pop back up. You’re up against old survival instincts. It takes real work to rewire them.
The good news is, it can be more fulfilling than you think. Like I said, focus on building a life you love.
But if you’re battling shame or feeling unworthy, you’re gonna need some guidance, my man.
Since 2015, I’ve helped countless businessmen, founders, and entrepreneurs heal their codependency, even in the middle of brutal divorces. If you want to thrive against all odds, you’ll need support.
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